January 30th in the year of Our Lord 2021

“He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me; and he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.” (Mt. 10:37)

To whom it may concern,

The above text, which was part of my reading this morning, has come apparent in our lives. We are facing a real decision between following all that the word commands and having a relationship with our daughter. 

I had contracted covid-19, sars, a few days before Christmas. I awoke at 5:00am on Christmas morning alone. My wife and I were isolated away from family and friends because of my illness; she was sleeping in another bed. Darlene and I have been married for 30 1/2 years and have always slept in the same bed but because of my illness she was sleeping in another room. 

On Christmas morning I awoke at 5:00am to two messages on my phone: One a message from the clinic confirming that I had covid-19, sars. The other a text message from our daughter, our daughter is 27 years old. I expected Merry Christmas but what I got has changed our lives. The message was a picture of my daughter and another girl that we have never meet embraced. There was an engagement ring on my daughters finger. I replied, “What is this picture about, can you explain.”

I knew that it would be sometime before I got a response because she is a late riser; however, I did not know that she would ignore all of my request for an answer until the evening of December 27th. I had not told Darlene about the picture as I wanted to save her from the worry that I was going through, at least until I received an answer from our daughter. On the evening of December 27th a message from our daughter came to both of us:
So I’m assuming you guys are wondering what the picture dad was sent was about. The picture was sent on accident. I have something to tell you guys and I have been avoiding saying it because I’m scared to change our relationships. I am gay. I have been in a relationship with Kaylee for awhile now and Christmas Eve she proposed to me and I said yes. I am very happy where I am in life and I hope you can accept that. I have always been this way and nothing you can say or do can make me change who I am. I’ve been through a lot to be happy with myself. God loves me the way that I am. And if you think differently I honestly hope you can keep it to yourself because no matter what you say and do will make me think differently. It will only hurt me if you say differently. I don’t expect you to change your beliefs but I do hope you can still love and support me as your daughter. I’m very happy now and I hope you can accept my happiness. I don’t expect you to come to my wedding or something even though I would love if you did. I hope you can still support me as your daughter. I love you both and I hope this doesn’t change anything between us or how you view me.

Unless she repents, this has and will change our relationship going forward. The apostle Paul wrote, 2 Corinthians 6:14, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” As I write, our daughter is choosing an unrighteous relationship with this girl rather than a relationship with us. Our daughter is welcome in our home and we desire a relationship with her. She knows the truth but is unwilling to listen to reason. I have told her that she is welcome in our home but her unrighteous relationship with this girl is not welcome. 

I do not know what the Lord has in store for the days ahead but I am trusting in the goodness of the Lord Jesus Christ. I am trusting as Paul wrote to the Romans 8:28, “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” We covet your prayers!

In Christ alone,
Michael Peek
The Nurse Theologian